Another reason I hate this song

Man beat child to song “Blurred LInes”

Another reason to hate this anti-woman, condoning rape song. If you haven’t seen the words (don’t bother listening to it, just Google the lyrics). Not that the song made him do it, but it is reprehensible in itself. Everyone came out strong against Miley Cyrus, but where is the backlash against Robin Thicke who sang the song condoning abusing women? It is the same double standard as when Janet Jackson and Justin Timberlake sang that song at the super bowl… the same double standard. We blame the woman and the man gets a free pass. Really?! Disgusting.

Why are we not more outraged at the lyrics and these so called singers? Why do you think?

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Are we getting any better?

The more I look around, the more I see disrespect. I am not driving fast enough or leaving a light quick enough and I get the horn and the ‘finger.” You stand in the grocery line that says 20 items, and people don’t care they have their baskets filled with double that. They want to get out faster than you and really don;t want to listen to the rules.

 Not only is society more disrespectful of people, but of things. Trash on the ground, people throwing garbage out the window as they drive by, or my favorite, opening their car door to leave the garbage in a nice neat stack OUTSIDE their vehicle. Why? What is it that makes us less likely to take care of our world, brothers and sisters and to help each other out? We are all struggling through life, so why do we care less? What does it mean to love one another?

Are these insignificant things? In the scheme of things, yes and no. They lead to a much larger issue, don’t they. If you are faithful with little things, you get more. But the reverse is also true.

Thoughts? Answers?

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Another tragedy… Sandy Hook, CT School Shooting

It is hard to put into words what a tragedy like this means… too many dead, too senseless an act. No final counts yet, but at least 20 of the dead are children.

This cannot be sugar coated. It seems the gunman killed his father, then his mother, and took many others along the way. How do we handle this? What do we say? If there was ever a question if evil is real, it is real.

Newsmakers are asking how it happened and why? There is no “why”. No anger seems appropriate or reason enough. No “bad childhood” can make this understandable.

What I can say is that we need prayers. We need to stand on the gap for those who mourn and mourn with them in their time of need. What I will say to parents is love your children, hug them, tell them they are special and important. Let them know they are loved by you and by God.
And pray…

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Miami-Dade County Resolution on Freedom from Domestic Violence. So tell me what you think?

Miami-Dade County Board of County Commissioners has proposed this resolution. What do you think? Is freedom from abuse a human right? Does it go along with life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness?

Sponsors of the Resolution are Commissioners: Sally A. Heyman, Prime Sponsor; Lynda Bell, Audrey M. Edmonson, and Rebeca Sosa, Co-Sponsors

Here is the Resolution:


WHEREAS, the Board of County Commissioners (“Board”) of Miami-Dade County, Florida (“County”) seeks to enhance the public welfare by declaring that the protection against domestic violence is a fundamental human right; and
WHEREAS, survivors of domestic violence must deal with the effects of physical injuries, long-term psychological damage, financial instability, and trouble finding safe housing; and
WHEREAS, more than 1 in 3 women and more than 1 in 4 men in the United States will experience rape, physical violence, and/or stalking by an intimate partner at some point in their lives; and this problem disproportionately impacts women of color, women with disabilities, women with low income, and immigrant women within Miami-Dade County, as well as their children; and
WHEREAS, according to 2011 Uniform Crime Reports, of the 111,681 reported domestic violence offenses Statewide, 9,313 occurred in Miami-Dade County, representing the highest number of domestic violence cases of any county in Florida; and
WHEREAS, of those 9,313 Miami-Dade County domestic violence offenses, about half (4,736) resulted in arrests; and of the 5,970 temporary injunctions issued in Miami-Dade County on domestic violence, dating violence, and sexual violence, twenty-three percent (1,401) resulted in the issuance of permanent injunctions; and
WHEREAS, in 2011, in Miami-Dade County, domestic violence victims made 5,567 crisis hotline and direct service calls for assistance; and shelters provided overnight protection to victims fleeing domestic violence 23,276 times; and there were 1,846 new admissions to residential and nonresidential domestic violence service facilities; and
WHEREAS, the United Nations Declaration on the Elimination of Violence Against Women recognizes the urgent need for the universal application to women of the rights and principles with regard to equality, security, liberty, integrity, and dignity of all human beings, and the United Nations Special Rapporteur on Violence Against Women has stated that “violence against women is the most pervasive human rights violation” and has urged the United States government to reassess laws and policies for protecting domestic violence survivors and for punishing abusers; and
WHEREAS, in 2011, the Inter-American Commission on Human Rights found in Jessica Lenahan (Gonzales) v. Untied States that the United States’ failure to protect women from gender-based violence constitutes discrimination and a human rights violation, and urged the United States to enact law and policy reforms to protect victims of domestic violence and their children; and
WHEREAS, world leaders and leaders within the United States recognize that domestic violence is a human rights concern; and police and sheriffs departments, courts, counties, cities, social service agencies, and other local government entities constitute the first line of defense against domestic violence; and
WHEREAS, by recognizing that domestic violence is a human rights violation, Miami-Dade County will raise awareness and enhance domestic violence education in communities, the public and private sectors, and within government agencies,
Section 1. This Board expresses its intent to join world leaders and leaders with in the United States in recognition of domestic violence as a human rights concern and declares that the freedom from domestic violence is a fundamental human right.
Section 2. This Resolution shall serve as a declaration to assure the citizens of the County that state and local governments bear a moral responsibility to secure this human right on behalf of their residents.
Section 3. This Resolution shall serve as a charge to all local government agencies to incorporate these principles into their policies and practices.
Section 4. A copy of this Resolution is to be sent to the Mayor, the Honorable Chair and Members of the Board of County Commissioners, the Director of the Miami-Dade Police Department, the Mayors and Commission and Council members of each municipality within Miami-Dade County.

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Welcome to my world…

It figures. I had written out my first couple blog posts and saved them so when I was ready to go “live” with my blog I would have them. Guess what?! Can’t find them – anywhere! Welcome to my world!

It’s not normally like this. I am reasonably organized and can usually find things – mine, my husband’s – but for some reason, these have disappeared. I might think someone doesn’t want me starting this blog. Hmmm, wonder who THAT could be!

But it is still happening, and I am glad you are here with me as I embark on this journey of blogging. It’s something I have wanted to do for a while, for oh so many reasons. Some are:

  • I’m a writer, and as a writer I have so much to say and share that sometimes I want to explode onto the page… but no worries, I won’t.
  • I have been asked my many who have read my book, “Healing the Broken Places,” to have a place where those reading it can interact and ask questions. Fair enough. It’s really an exciting thought and I understand the need to want someone to walk with you when you are going through struggles and healing and to have someone there who understands and has walked the path. We’ll do that here.
  • Issues of hurts are near and dear to my heart… as a minister, counselor and as a survivor of abuse. And these are issues that, as Christians, we need to talk about. Not just in passing, but really delve into with concern and compassion.  We’ll do that here as well.
  • Sometimes we need to be lighthearted to get away from our troubles and struggles, even if only for a few minutes… so this isn’t all serious down trodden stuff. Sometimes, we’ll laugh together. Ever seen the picture of Laughing Jesus? It’s great. It reminds us that we need to take time out for fun.

So as we begin this journey, welcome to my world! It is busy, exciting, tiring, uplifting and spiritual. It is a life that attempts to honor God in all I do. I sometimes fail, but I try.

So some basic guidelines for blogging here:

1. We are all made in the image of God and therefore deserve to be treated with dignity and respect. Please do so in all interactions. They are conversations, not criticisms.

2. Do not question anyone’s intelligence, spirituality or motives; NO PERSONAL ATTACKS allowed!

3. Do not tell someone what they believe. Instead, ask them.

4. Avoid sarcasm. Sarcasm is rarely funny and is often a sign of anger, and it often offends even when not intended. Be safe, don’t use it.

5. Comments should be concise and relate directly to post content.

6. Please use your name. I am not a fan of anonymous comments UNLESS it is for safety reasons. If it is because you are hiding behind anonymity to say something not nice, it’s not nice. Respect others by telling us to whom we are speaking.

Comments which do not follow the guidelines may be edited or deleted.

Commenting on this blog is a privilege. Decisions by the Blog Owner are final.

So… ready? Let’s start a conversation. Welcome to my world!

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Chapter 1

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Chapter 2

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Chapter 3

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